PART 1

Am I in a healthy relationship? Ask yourself the following questions:

• Do you feel like the person you are with is supportive and encouraging?

• Do they seek mutually beneficial solutions?

• Do you feel heard when you are expressing your feelings?

• Do they encourage your interests, education, and career?

• Do you feel like it's OK to make mistakes in your relationship?

• Does the person you are with accept responsibility for their own actions rather than blaming failures on others?

• Do they work to offer empathy and assistance?

• Does each person give serious consideration to the perspective of the other?

• Does the person you are with consistently and honestly share thoughts, feelings, and experiences with you over time?

Part 2

Am I in an abusive relationship? Answer these questions:

• Does the person you are with accuse you of flirting or cheating?

• Do you feel unsure about sharing your dreams or personal achievements with them?

• Do you feel the need to justify your time and decisions?

• Do you feel like they are extremely jealous or possessive?

• Do you feel obligated, threatened, or forced into unwanted affection or sexual activity?

• Do you see them as untrustworthy?
  

What kinds of relationships can be abusive?

Domestic and sexual abuse can impact people in any type of relationship. This includes partners, friends, family members, caregivers, coworkers, and others.

Who can I talk to about my relationship?

• If you answered “no” to questions in Part 1 and “yes” to questions in Part 2, then you will want to take note of these indicators as red flags of an abusive relationship.

SCARS Survivors have recommendations for some places you can visit on the web to connect for support, learn more about the impact of abuse, and how you can heal if you’ve been abused.

National Domestic Violence Hotline

Abuse Recovery Ministry Services

NAYA Native American Youth & Family Services

S.E.I. Anti-Domestic & Sexual Violence Program

Allies in Change Women's Abuse Recovery Groups